Just keep going
After three years of college, at 20 years old, I left Mt. Pleasant to move back home from CMU. My reasons for leaving were numerous: It was expensive and my family didn't want to take out student loans, I had roommates who bickered and prioritized partying, etc.
I regretted this decision for the next 12 years, which was the time it took me to finish my bachelor's degree. I should have taken out student loans, moved into a single dorm room and figured out a way to stick it out. Many adults encouraged me to stay in Mt. Pleasant and finish, but it was easier to give up and go home.
When I left college, I truly believed I would only take one year off. I would work for a year to afford tuition and then transfer to Wayne State. I had several jobs, but because I was only qualified for hourly work, none of them had a set schedule. When it was time to commit to a class schedule and two hours of commute time, I found that not being able to afford tuition without working several jobs created a vicious cycle of needing to work to go to school, not being able to go to school because of work. More and more impediments presented themselves each year that went by.
Every career to which I aspired required a minimum of a bachelor's degree, and at every job I worked, I was the lowest person on the org chart. I felt less than my co-workers because they all had degrees, and whenever I would try to promote, my supervisors would remind me that I was not qualified. At age 29, my husband encouraged me to look into a program for returning non-traditional students that would help me shorten my time to a degree. I had an infant and two toddlers to care for as a returning student, but I was able to take one evening class a week while my husband was home. With his support, I graduated at 32. I met a few professors who encouraged me to keep going, and I now have master's degrees.
If I could go back, I would do whatever I had to do to stay in school. But as a young person, I felt I knew best about my life choices. I have amassed a wicked skillset at the wildly dangerous, stressful, and mentally exhausting jobs I had before I graduated, but I could have avoided so much heartache and sleep deprivation if I had just finished my degree earlier.
If you have obstacles to staying in school and finishing your degree, I strongly encourage you to reach out for assistance from the multitude of Wayne State staff and faculty who want to help you.
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By Jill de Jesus, academic services officer III